Contests, Lifestyle

Who Was Your First Love? – Vanessa Tai

First love is an exhilarating experience. Everything feels new and exciting, and you’re unfettered by the baggage of past relationships. While not all of us still keep in touch with with our first love, it’s always fun to reminisce about the first time we fell in love.

While I’ve had crushes on like, I don’t know, a million guys before, somehow falling for X felt different. He was someone I got to know through a school camp, and I was immediately taken in by his sleepy eyes and dimples (these two physical features are my absolute kryptonite). One thing led to another, and we soon found ourselves chatting on the phone every day. Thinking back, it was fairly chaste – we rarely went out on official “dates” and if we did, our friends would be there too. Even though we’re no longer in contact with each other, I still hold on to some fond memories. For example, how we would exchange presents via our friends because we were too shy to do it face-to-face, or the time he called me from the airport before he left on an extended overseas trip.

Of course, the story of my first love is not as exciting as those in the movies!

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Endless Love is a new romance drama starring Alex Pettyfer (last seen in The Butler) and Gabriella Wilde (last seen in Carrie). Wilde plays Jade Butterfield, a privileged and bookish high school student who falls in love with David Axelrod, a charming young man with a troubled background. David is Jade’s first love, and she’s so enraptured by him that she’s willing to forgo everything, including her parents’ approval. However, there’s something about David that makes Jade’s father uneasy, so he sets out to uncover more about David’s past …

We have five pairs of tickets to the Endless Love premiere to give away!

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Here’s what you need to do to win:

1. Download Material World’s app, “Material World”, free on the iTunes store and Google Play.

2. On the Contest tab of the Material World app, fill in the name of the contest (Endless Love) and your particulars, and answer the following question: Name the male and female lead in the movie, Endless Love.

3. Then share this post with your friends on Facebook. Remember to tag “MaterialWorldSG” in your post. Set your post on Public so we can verify you have completed this step.

4. This contest is open only to those who download Material World app, and Material World fans on Facebook. Contest ends Thursday, February 6, 2014.

The premiere for Endless Love (PG-13) will be held on February 11, 2014 (Tuesday), 7pm at Bugis+.

Endless Love (©2014 Universal Studios. All Rights Reserved.) opens in cinemas on February 13.

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Love In Lines, Relationships

[Love In Lines] 5 Things Single People Hate – Vanessa Tai

Don’t get me wrong, there are many things I like about being single – namely, the freedom to do anything I want – but there are times where being single sucks. And no, it’s not being the only singleton at a coupled-up party (although that kind of blows too.) After speaking to several of my single friends, I’ve put together a list of things that really peeve us single folk. Can you guess which is my top peeve?

Not all single women are variations of Bridget Jones, y'know.

Not all single women are variations of Bridget Jones, y’know.

1. People assuming that all you want out of life is to get attached
I may be generalising, but this is especially prevalent for women. You can be highly successful in your career, but people will still ask, “Oh, but how’s your love life? Anything exciting going on there?” Yes, I get that they’re probably concerned (or nosey) but to me, it just sounds like my relationship status is the most important factor when calculating my worth as a person.

2. People saying things like, “You just haven’t found the right person,” or “You just need to make more friends.”
Whenever I hear something like that, I’ll think, “No shit, Sherlock! And here I thought I was single and alone because of my ugly, warty face or my despicable personality!” But if you proffer any sort of sarcastic response, you get labelled as a bitter old spinster. You just can’t win!

3. When friends tell you to “stop being picky, or you’ll be left on the shelf.”
Of course, the first thing you’ll feel is annoyance. But when the irritation has settled, self-doubt starts to creep in. “Could they be right? Am I really too picky? If everybody is attached, there must be something wrong with me!”

4. The assumption that there’s The One
I’ll admit it, when I was younger and way more idealistic, I used to believe there was One Person out there for everyone. Until a particular Sex and the City episode where Miranda tells Charlotte holding out for that ONE soulmate is too dangerous because the probability of never meeting him is so high. That really opened my eyes that there’s no one perfect partner; it’s more of finding someone who’s suitable and both of you working hard to make the relationship work.

5. People assuming you’re just bitter whenever you talk about being single
I’m sure you’re familiar with this scenario: A single woman makes a bold declaration that she’s perfectly content staying single for the rest of her life … and people will make snarky comments ranging from, “She doesn’t know what she’s missing out on,” to “She just needs to get laid!” I’m not even going to try to defend myself or my fellow single friends here, because no matter what I say, people will still form their own assumptions. All I’m going to say is, we can’t even begin to know what goes on in people’s minds so let’s all curtail our judgment, shall we?

Fellow singletons, what are YOUR pet peeves? Tell us in the Comments section below!

Love In Lines is a special under the Relationship section of Material World. The four founders each takes a week in a month to talk about dealing with love from different perspectives. Founder Vanessa Tai talks about navigating the often-confusing world of singledom. Stay tuned for more! 

About The Author: Vanessa Tai is a founder of Material World who has previously worked on magazines Simply Her and Cosmopolitan Singapore. Now a freelance writer and a full-time contributor to this website, the 26-year-old dreams of attending every single major music festival before she turns 30. One of her favourite “single gal” activities is eating like a feral animal in public while reading a book. Follow her on Twitter @VannTaiTweets

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Love In Lines, Relationships

[Love In Lines] Singlehood and Self-Pity – Vanessa Tai

Single people reading this, when do you feel the most alone? Is it during the festive season when loved-up couples are canoodling under the mistletoe? Or during Valentine’s Day when Orchard Road seems to be spilling over with starry-eyed girls clutching overpriced flowers from their beau? Or is it after a particularly rough day when you grab your phone to call someone and you realise there’s nobody you really want to talk to (or if you’re really honest, nobody who cares enough to listen to you whinge.)

Or is it all of the above?

We all have moments where we feel particularly lonely. For me, I feel my singleness most starkly when I invite a friend out and he/she asks if their partner can come along. Maybe I’m overreacting, but I feel gutted whenever that happens. It makes me wonder if my company is so insufficient that they have to invite their partner along to fill up whatever void it is that I’m unable to fill.

Don’t get me wrong though; I’m not an unreasonable person. I can understand if for some reason or other, my friend doesn’t get to see her boyfriend much so she tries to include him in as many outings as possible. In fact, I encourage it! What I don’t understand is couples who see each other all the time but still insist on being joined at the hip. For some reason, that makes me feel pronouncedly alone. Maybe because it reinforces the fact that there’s nobody (that I know of, anyway) who wants to be joined at my hip.

Lest you think I’m your stereotypical morose single woman gagging to get attached, let me just set the record straight: these moments of self-pitying loneliness are few and far between. However, when they do occur, I’ve discovered a great way to tackle it. Introducing my self-devised 3-Step Process For Snapping Out Of Self-Pity:

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Love In Lines is a special under the Relationship section of Material World. The four founders each takes a week in a month to talk about dealing with love from different perspectives. Founder Vanessa Tai talks about navigating the often-confusing world of singledom. Stay tuned for more! 

About The Author: Vanessa Tai is a founder of Material World who has previously worked on magazines Simply Her and Cosmopolitan Singapore. Now a freelance writer and a full-time contributor to this website, the 26-year-old dreams of attending every single major music festival before she turns 30. Follow her on Twitter @VannTaiTweets

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