Character & Soul, Self-Improvement

10 Reasons Why It’s Great To Be A Diva – Matthew Fam

I never got the hate with divas. I mean, has a healthy level of confidence ever been bad? (err… no.) Sure, diva behaviour is frowned upon if you throw a hissy fit every five seconds. But there’s so much greatness in being this wonder woman archetype that even you have to give it a try. Here are 10 reasons why: 

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B*tch please, you are confident in your capabilities and talents without resorting to arrogance. And because of this self-confidence, you are decided on your goals. Promotion in 2 years time? Set. Rule the world? Oh yeah, sure, like it’s no big deal. You know exactly what you want, so you go get ’em, baby.

 

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2. You look fabulous 
Haters gonna hate, but you know you’re looking drop dead gorgeous. You keep appearances well, and never let your fab-o-meter go south. Even when you leave home without makeup, you work it like it’s the next big trend, #BareFacedBeauty.

3. You are unfazed by setbacks
Failure doesn’t exist in your dictionary, mm-kay? You don’t have time to entertain it, and your ego is certainly above it. A diva is an optimist: you merely see failure as a work in progress, and a constant refinement until you achieve perfection.

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It is one thing to put aside your own ego to compromise and form a loving relationship with another man. It is another to be completely eclipsed by him. In the diva’s code of conduct, you are not defined by your man- his job, how much he earns or his social status. Instead, you have equal placing on the mantle.

 

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Losing face doesn’t sit well with you. And neither does anyone who thinks that badmouthing is ever a good idea. Sure, confrontation is never desired; but when push comes to shove, a diva doesn’t even need to sharpen her claws. Her caustic wit will be quick to redress anyone who dares sass her out.

Outside of tiffs, this quick wit serves especially well when forming positive impressions and thinking on her feet (Career & Relationships: 1, Enemy: 0).

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6. You will be envied

Fact: you can’t please everyone. Some people will absolutely hate your guts, and that’s okay. But know that deep inside, everyone just admires you for your confidence and, you know, just being so darn amazing. You may even inspire those around you to emulate your fabulosity. So trust in your identity, and be proud to be a diva.

7. You are fearless
Despite the brazen attitude divas are known to have, there will still be times when fear sets in, for example, during a major career decision. However, what makes a true diva is her ability to maintain inner poise and think clearly. Seasoned divas have this down to a tee by breezing through sticky situations, but don’t discount the younger ones- they bite down hard on insecurities and rise to the occasion.

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Maybe a teeensy bit more subtlety…

8. You get straight to the point 
Divas are efficient and will tell it like it is. Forget passive aggression (who has time for that??) you just zero in for the kill. Being straight forward spares everyone the time and trouble trying to figure out what the other party wants. However, do note that being straightforward doesn’t give you the license to be rude. The difference lies in how you craft your message in a respectful manner.

9. You know when to say ‘no’
“I’m not your b*tch, don’t hang your sh*t on me,” once sang Madonna in her 1995 hit, Human Nature. Make this your mantra. Internalise. Apply. You will not be treated like a doormat. Your shining sense of self worth doesn’t allow you to squander precious seconds doing something that is not worth your time. *Three snaps in a ‘Z’ formation*

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10. You will be remembered
When played correctly (read: totes not acceptable to be a full-out monster 24/7), the diva card is your biggest bet to being remembered for the right reasons. In a sea of cookie-cutter personalities, standing out is not a problem for you. Plus, with the magic combination of poise, class and grace, you will be respected by those around.

 

 

So, what other ways is it great to be a diva? Share with us in the comments section below!

About the Author: Matthew Fam is a contributing writer of Material World, and has worked at Cosmopolitan Singapore as an intern and Contributing Beauty Assistant. He writes, teaches, and performs for the stage. Matthew enjoys museum visits, Singaporean Theatre, and spends too much of his undergraduate allowance on magazines.

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6 Things Soccer Widows Can Do Over The World Cup Period – Matthew Fam

Don’t bother checking his phone messages to find out what he’s been up to- your man’s probably glued in front of the television all this while! Yes, we’re talking about the World Cup. Taking place from 12 June – 13 July 2014, the much-hyped tournament sees ladies suddenly “widowed” from their partner’s absence. So here are 6 ways to get him out of the house, or even a chance to rope in a girlfriend for that much needed catchup sesh.

1. A Miraculous Transformation
You’re battling for his attention, so a mere dye job or change in hairstyle will not be enough to steer him away from the TV screen. What you need to capture his fancy with is a showstopping transformation in the form of a Qi Mantra Miracle Facial treatment that uses stem cells and Variable Pulse Light (VPL) to firm up and soften skin.

The 90-minute non-invasive treatment, $350, includes a luxurious stem cell lifting mask, containing plant-based placental extract to stimulate the production of collagen and plump skin for a youthful complexion.

Available at #03-19 Wheelock Place, 501 Orchard Road. Tel: 6737 3463. Opening hours: Mondays – Sundays, 10.30am – 10pm.

singapore-restaurant-melt-the-world-cafe-hero2. A Worldly Cuisine
Sate his international frenzy at MELT – The World Café, that offers a buffet spread of cuisine around the globe.

Located at Mandarin Oriental, Singapore, take him out for a one-day-only Father’s Day promotion on 15 June. Enjoy a glorious spread of fresh seafood and gourmet pastas at the Champagne Brunch, priced at $128+ per person. Or for a feast that will fill him through the night matches (3 will be taking place later on!), try the Barbeque Dinner at $88+ per person.

Better yet if he samples the cuisine of his favourite World Cup team- allowing you to score a conversation while enjoying precious quality time away from the telly!

Mandarin Oriental, Singapore. 5 Raffles Avenue, Marina Square. Tel: 6885 3500.

Grassy_Tote_Front_1024x10243. Wear His Team Colours at a Fashion Party 
You may not sit through those arduous matches with him, but you can show your support by wearing his team’s colours. Wearto.com’s 2nd anniversary party at Outpost Bar & Bistro is the perfect opportunity to wear his colours with pride. The first 150 party-goers will receive party bags filled with deals and merchandise sponsored from brands like Spa Espirit and Browhaus.

Plus, with the fashion retailer’s launch of edgy bag brand, GLUSH from Hong Kong, you can take home a piece of the soccer pitch in the brand’s line of quirky, AstroTurf-lined bags!

Party on 22 June 2014, 12 – 6pm. Outpost Bar & Bistro, 3 Sentosa Gateway, St. James Power Station #01-11. Tel: 9069 1109.

4. Catch Euro Fever 
If you can’t beat them, join them! The French may have won the World Cup back in 1998, but if there’s another thing they totally get right, it’s their artisan pastries and baked creations! Bécasse has launched its full format dining concept with classic European and French inspired dishes, giving diners a wider selection of culinary treats apart from its in-house prepared pastries.

Bécasse (Dempsey Hill), Block 10, Dempsey Road #01-21. Tel: 6479 8119. Opening hours: Daily, 10am – 10pm.

For moisture and coverage in a single pump, try Sephora CC Care & Colour Creme SPF 20, $30.

For moisture and coverage in a single pump, try Sephora CC Care & Colour Creme SPF 20, $30.

5. Faking A Good Night’s Rest
Staying up for a late-night soccer match with your partner can give you a dull, sallow complexion the next day. So feign your beauty sleep with a selection of BB and CC Creams from Sephora.

From 10 – 31 July, enjoy a 10% discount on selected products from: Boscia, PureHeal, Tarte, Sephora’s house brand, Peter Thomas Roth, and Kate Somerville. On top of that, White Card members get another 5% off.

2 Orchard Turn #01-05/06, ION Orchard.  Tel: 6509 8255.

6. Visit A Pop- Up Restaurant
What better way to soak up the festivities of the World Cup than to spend an evening in a pop-up restaurant, held at a historic landmark which was once the crossroads of travellers all across the globe?

My Private Chef introduces its first leg of pop-up dining, Stories, held at the Tanjong Pagar Railway Station. At $188 – $248 per ticket, enjoy a fresh interpretation of local cuisine by Chef Stephan Zoisl, who has worked in Michelin starred restaurants around Austria, Portugal and the United States of America (coincidentally teams of the tournament!)

22 – 26 June 2014. Tickets can be purchased on http://www.myprivatechef.com.sg. Advanced reservations can be made at dine@myprivatechef.com.sg

 

So, how would you be spending time during the World Cup period? Share with us in the comments section below!

About the Author: Matthew Fam is a contributing writer of Material World, and has worked at Cosmopolitan Singapore as an intern and Contributing Beauty Assistant. He writes, teaches, and performs for the stage. Matthew enjoys museum visits, Singaporean Theatre, and spends too much of his undergraduate allowance on magazines.


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10 Must-Know Ways He’ll Never Be Boyfriend Material – Matthew Fam

Is he into you? Is he not? And if he is, does he only see you as a one night stand? The madness ends NOW. Whether you’re dealing with someone out of your league, a playboy or complete sleazeball creep, the telltale signs are undeniable. Here, the 10 must-know ways he isn’t boyfriend material.

1. The Picture Sender
Rule of thumb: if a guy is totally into you, he’d want to share as much of his life as possible. This means sending snaps of anything under the Sun- his new haircut, the new GoPro camera he’s tricked out with, or even a meal that he whipped up (pssst… your cue to suggest a dinner date!) On the flipside, if your Whatsapp media folder has been flatlining, you know he’s a real dud.

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Shut up now.

2. Emoji Overload
And just when you thought emoticons were bad enough. Emojis teeter on the date-defining line between adorable and totally nauseating. So imagine if your sweetie signs off each and. Every. Single. One of his texts with a parade of monkey faces. You’re dating a man- not babysitting a teenage kid.

3. Hanky Panky
Touch is essential for intimacy, no doubt. But having it five steps ahead of the game gives the impression that he’s only in it for your lady bits.

Signs to look out for instead? Eye contact, mimicking of body postures, and his pelvic region facing you (sounds insane, but seriously). Sometimes, subtlety does it.

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4. The Phantom Menace
Text. Flirt. Disappear. Repeat.  Sound familiar? Unless you’re settling for a flirtationship, you should find a chap who won’t string you along. Perhaps you could switch things up and make him the one to wait instead! Just remember: no crazy text spamming or instant replies that scream ‘psycho girlfriend’.

5.When the ‘L’ word is said FAR too soon
According to this article, men take 88 days on average to say ‘I love you’ to their girlfriends. And over 39% of those surveyed take the verbal plunge during the first month of their relationship. While this isn’t a compulsory guide, it should give you a fair gauge if your man is just saying romantic mush to appease you.

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Let’s get one thing straight: him paying for your date is NOT an excuse for a free pass at you. And you absolutely shouldn’t feel obliged to entertain his advances. I mean, hello?? It drives home the message that you’re a commodity to be bought… and ain’t nobody got time for that!

7. Repeat Offender
Now, this technique requires some next-level snooping skills (and a sliiight breach of his privacy… just don’t get caught!) If the way he treated his past girlfriends fall into a pattern- same breakup excuse, same bad habits- you know he’s not likely to change his spots anytime soon!

Total. Deal. Breaker.

Total. Deal. Breaker.

8. When He Secretly Films You During Sex!
Ever wanted to be a YouTube celebrity? Well, the only kind of internet sensation you DON’T want to be is this!

Sure, sex is supposed to be fun, but this here is a major deal breaker. Aside from having a total lack of respect, recording lewd acts without consent is just way too creepy. Spot a suspicious red dot floating in the darkness of his room? Congratulations- you now have liberty to go apesh*t on his MacBook.

9. Phone Fiddler
We’re all guilty of the occasional phone checking- even during dates. But if he’s busier than a Bangalore call centre, dump the dude. Actions speak volumes, so if he can’t even commit that little bit of time for you, what more a longer-term relationship? If text replying is a must (could it be that he’s chatting up other ladies too??), how about having a 5-minute timeout instead?

10. Bad Body Odour
Deodorant; cologne; instruct man to scrub pits with Clorox… Or seriously, just don’t go out with him.

So, how do YOU judge if someone is boyfriend material? Share with us in the comments section below!

 

About the Author: Matthew Fam is a contributing writer of Material World, and has worked at Cosmopolitan Singapore as an intern and Contributing Beauty Assistant. He writes, teaches, and performs for the stage. Matthew enjoys museum visits, Singaporean Theatre, and spends too much of his undergraduate allowance on magazines.

 

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