Character & Soul, Self-Improvement

10 Reasons Why It’s Great To Be A Diva – Matthew Fam

I never got the hate with divas. I mean, has a healthy level of confidence ever been bad? (err… no.) Sure, diva behaviour is frowned upon if you throw a hissy fit every five seconds. But there’s so much greatness in being this wonder woman archetype that even you have to give it a try. Here are 10 reasons why: 

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B*tch please, you are confident in your capabilities and talents without resorting to arrogance. And because of this self-confidence, you are decided on your goals. Promotion in 2 years time? Set. Rule the world? Oh yeah, sure, like it’s no big deal. You know exactly what you want, so you go get ’em, baby.

 

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2. You look fabulous 
Haters gonna hate, but you know you’re looking drop dead gorgeous. You keep appearances well, and never let your fab-o-meter go south. Even when you leave home without makeup, you work it like it’s the next big trend, #BareFacedBeauty.

3. You are unfazed by setbacks
Failure doesn’t exist in your dictionary, mm-kay? You don’t have time to entertain it, and your ego is certainly above it. A diva is an optimist: you merely see failure as a work in progress, and a constant refinement until you achieve perfection.

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It is one thing to put aside your own ego to compromise and form a loving relationship with another man. It is another to be completely eclipsed by him. In the diva’s code of conduct, you are not defined by your man- his job, how much he earns or his social status. Instead, you have equal placing on the mantle.

 

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Losing face doesn’t sit well with you. And neither does anyone who thinks that badmouthing is ever a good idea. Sure, confrontation is never desired; but when push comes to shove, a diva doesn’t even need to sharpen her claws. Her caustic wit will be quick to redress anyone who dares sass her out.

Outside of tiffs, this quick wit serves especially well when forming positive impressions and thinking on her feet (Career & Relationships: 1, Enemy: 0).

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6. You will be envied

Fact: you can’t please everyone. Some people will absolutely hate your guts, and that’s okay. But know that deep inside, everyone just admires you for your confidence and, you know, just being so darn amazing. You may even inspire those around you to emulate your fabulosity. So trust in your identity, and be proud to be a diva.

7. You are fearless
Despite the brazen attitude divas are known to have, there will still be times when fear sets in, for example, during a major career decision. However, what makes a true diva is her ability to maintain inner poise and think clearly. Seasoned divas have this down to a tee by breezing through sticky situations, but don’t discount the younger ones- they bite down hard on insecurities and rise to the occasion.

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Maybe a teeensy bit more subtlety…

8. You get straight to the point 
Divas are efficient and will tell it like it is. Forget passive aggression (who has time for that??) you just zero in for the kill. Being straight forward spares everyone the time and trouble trying to figure out what the other party wants. However, do note that being straightforward doesn’t give you the license to be rude. The difference lies in how you craft your message in a respectful manner.

9. You know when to say ‘no’
“I’m not your b*tch, don’t hang your sh*t on me,” once sang Madonna in her 1995 hit, Human Nature. Make this your mantra. Internalise. Apply. You will not be treated like a doormat. Your shining sense of self worth doesn’t allow you to squander precious seconds doing something that is not worth your time. *Three snaps in a ‘Z’ formation*

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10. You will be remembered
When played correctly (read: totes not acceptable to be a full-out monster 24/7), the diva card is your biggest bet to being remembered for the right reasons. In a sea of cookie-cutter personalities, standing out is not a problem for you. Plus, with the magic combination of poise, class and grace, you will be respected by those around.

 

 

So, what other ways is it great to be a diva? Share with us in the comments section below!

About the Author: Matthew Fam is a contributing writer of Material World, and has worked at Cosmopolitan Singapore as an intern and Contributing Beauty Assistant. He writes, teaches, and performs for the stage. Matthew enjoys museum visits, Singaporean Theatre, and spends too much of his undergraduate allowance on magazines.

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Character & Soul, Opinions, Self-Improvement, Vanessa Tai

More Than Just A Pretty Face – Vanessa Tai

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is only skin deep. Beauty is not everything. We’ve heard it all before, and yet we continue to place beauty on a pedestal. As much as we value other qualities like intelligence or kindness, the first thing that draws our attention to a person is his/her physical attractiveness. We can’t help it. We are wired to admire, and even crave for beauty.

I’ve never been what you would call a “conventional beauty”. Yes, maybe to my dad, I will always be “the prettiest girl in the world”, but I’m not biased like he is. When I hold myself up to worldly beauty standards, I know I don’t quite check all the checkboxes of a conventional beauty – big eyes, high nose, long legs, etc.

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

When I was younger, this used to bother me. I would compare myself endlessly to the celebrities I admired, or the friends I deemed more attractive than I. But because I had established an identity of being “the funny one”, nobody really knew that was how I felt. They didn’t know the reason they found my self-deprecating jokes funny, was because there was an element of truth to it.

As a result of my insecurities and hang-ups about how I looked, I never really felt comfortable in my own skin. When my friends and I hit the clubs, we would be dressed to the nines (okay, I’ll admit it, there was the occasional skanky outfit or two) but I never felt comfortable all dolled up. Throughout the evening, I would alternate between worrying about “wardrobe malfunctions” or whether I looked ridiculous. When other clubbers – both male and female – ran their eyes over me, I would imagine them thinking to themselves, “Why does she bother dressing up when she’s not even hot?” At the lowest point of my insecurities, I would even berate myself whenever I cried (whether out of stress or boy troubles). I would tell myself, “Only pretty girls have the right to cry.”

I know. Sick, right?

I wish I could tell you this story has a happy ending, that I am now a 100 percent confident young woman with zero insecurities. But that wouldn’t be true. The truth is, confidence is a constant work-in-progress. It takes years to build it up – layer by layer – in order to build a rock-solid assuredness that’s unshakeable even in moments of anxiety. Over the years, I’ve had various experiences that helped build up confidence in my looks and I’ll like to share them with you here.

Push Your Body To New Limits
When I was in my early 20’s, I took up an adventure course on a whim and was soon inducted into the world of trekking, campfires and rock climbing. For a born-and-bred city girl like me, it was challenging to say the least but each time I scaled a new peak or roughed it out for another night in the jungle, I felt a true sense of accomplishment.

The very inspiring Singapore Women's Everest Team!

The very inspiring Singapore Women’s Everest Team! I’m constantly amazed and humbled by the feats of the human body.

As you know, the other Material World founders and I have been training for a half-marathon over the past few months. (Actually, by the time you read this, we would have completed our race.) Running long distances was tough to get used to initially but over time, I grew to love it and even looked forward to it. Sometimes, after a particularly grueling workout, I would sit back and marvel at how my body has worked in tandem to bring me that far. Now, I’m eager to see what else my body is able to achieve. As Socrates said:

What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which the body is capable.”

It’s All About Packaging
Even if you are not among the genetically blessed, it’s no excuse to be defeated and look frumpy. Some people may argue that “looks are not the most important thing,” and I concur. But it is important. Like it or not, first impressions count – according to researchers from NYU, we make 11 major decisions about one another in the first seven seconds of meeting.

What that means is you should always put in effort to dress up before leaving the house. That means wearing clothes that flatter, or even accentuate your figure; applying makeup to enhance your best features and putting on shoes that help you walk in confidence. If that means you have to ditch your favourite flip-flops for a pair of heels, do it. Heels are not my favourite type of footwear either, but I’ve noticed how I walk with more poise and confidence whenever I’m in them. This is why I’ve resolved to put on heels whenever I am meeting someone important.

Clueless about makeup, you say? Check out our extensive beauty section, or any of the many makeup workshops available. Trust me, once you’ve discovered the tips and tricks to bring out your best features, you’ll wonder why didn’t you start earlier. #TrueStory

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Own The Moment
This is something I learned recently from Debs. I was having a conversation with her about physical beauty, where I shared with her about the hang-ups I have about the way I look. True to form, she launched into a rousing pep talk about how we need to OWN THE MOMENT. Owning the moment is not just about “faking it till you make it”. It’s more than that. Owning the moment means walking into a room knowing you have every right to be there, or putting on a gorgeous outfit knowing you have the right to be hot. Owning the moment is having the assuredness that you are strong, beautiful and an achiever.

Because you are.

You are not a mistake. You are not an afterthought. And you sure as hell weren’t born to live in somebody’s shadow. So go out there, put your best face forward and show the world just what you’re capable of!

About The Author: Vanessa Tai is a founder of Material World who has previously worked on magazines Simply Her and Cosmopolitan Singapore. Now a freelance writer and a full-time contributor to this website, the 26-year-old dreams of attending every single major music festival before she turns 30. Follow her on Twitter @VannTaiTweets.

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5 Life Lessons I Learnt From Boxing – Denise Li

Also, protect yourself at all times.

Also, protect yourself at all times.

At my boxing gym, we usually end the one hour session with about five minutes of sparring. We’d spar with our partners for about a minute and, after the minute is up, we’d switch partners.

Now, boxing is one of those skills that’s relatively easy to pick up … but hard to master. There are only a few basic moves (the jab, cross, hook and uppercut) but it’s also extremely technical, with lots of footwork and head movements involved. The best way to pick these up is by sparring. After all, you can spend hours and hours hitting a bag, but at the end of the day, the bag doesn’t hit back (as my coaches are so fond of telling me).

As I write this, I am still recovering from the sting of having my ass roundly kicked by one of my sparring partners a couple of days ago. I wasn’t physically hurt, but my ego did take a bit of a beating. As I pondered about the best way to deal with my “defeat”, I realised that there have been a number of lessons about life I’ve learnt in my years of doing martial arts, which I think is worth sharing, here.

1. There Will ALWAYS Be Someone Better Than You

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I’ve sparred with people (men and women) of all levels and it can be disheartening to spar with someone who outclasses you by a mile. You’ll start to question all the training you’ve done and start wondering whether you simply dreamed about the skills you thought you had. Though self-doubt is one of the most uncomfortable feelings ever, I think it can be healthy so long as you don’t let yourself get bogged down by it.

There will  only be a few people (Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, Hilary Clinton) that will be at the top of the game, but that doesn’t mean the rest of us should stop trying. What boxing taught me is that I can choose to let myself get intimidated by a bit of friendly competition, or I can step up my game and do better than I did during the previous session.

I take heart in the fact that there is always someone better than me (in boxing, and in life) because it assures me that striving to become better isn’t impossible. After all, if someone else has done it before, then so can I. Life becomes meaningless the moment you stop striving.

2. To Achieve Your Goal, Be Prepared To Do Things You Don’t Like

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Though I hate doing them, I know strength and conditioning exercises are crucial for every boxer to build a strong core and better stability as there’s a lot of fancy footwork that’s involved in the sport. Squats and burpees are my Archille’s heel, but I’ve learnt to grit my teeth and push myself through each of the excruciating exercises. Whenever I find myself losing focus, I remind myself about why I put myself through this sort of torture: To become a well-rounded boxer.

Does that sound a bit like work? I think there are definitely some similarities. At work, most of us are required to wear many hats. Administrator one minute, social media strategist the next, report-writer in yet another. It won’t be fun and games all the time – duh, that’s why it’s called “work” – and the sooner you make peace with this the better. No matter how unpleasant the task, try to put a positive spin on it: Will this make you more efficient in the long run? Will this help you touch base with contacts that will prove useful in the future? You never know.

(Of course, if it involves a moral and ethical issue and you’re not prepared to put aside your principles to get something done, then don’t do it.)

3. Know When To Step Back

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When I first started learning martial arts, I was doing muay thai (kickboxing). I had to switch to pure boxing (which only involves punching) after I’d injured my left knee during muay thai sparring just over a year ago. I’m pretty sure the injury happened because I was over-training – I was putting in one and half hours a day of full-on training, three to four times a week. Couple that with an exhausting full-time office job and not enough sleep and it was a recipe for disaster. Just before the injury, I could feel that I was on the brink of over-straining my  ligaments, but I neglected to listen to my body, and got myself hurt as a result.

Two lessons here: (1) It can be counter-productive pushing yourself beyond your limits. Sometimes, you might function better trying to squeeze in doing less in a day and instead, giving your body and mind a chance to recharge through a good night’s sleep. (2) An unfortunate incident can be a happy accident. My injury put me out of commission for a couple of months, and when I returned to training, I decided to focus just on boxing rather than muay thai. Now, boxing is my one true (sporty) love.

4. Be Prepared To Change Your Strategy

Most boxers have a certain “style” they find it difficult to deviate from, probably because a certain series of moves and combinations have worked well for them in the past. But just because a combination works on the first 10 people you compete against doesn’t guarantee that it’ll work against the 11th.

The key words here are “adaptability” and “flexibility”. Plans are great, but with so many factors at stake, it’s so easy for plans to go off the rails. You have to be prepared to change your strategy when a particular course of action isn’t working out for you, instead of stubbornly sticking to the original plan. Life’s full of curveballs and you must be ready to change your game plan at any minute … or you’ll put yourself at risk of being knocked out. (Literally and metaphorically)

5. Lastly … No, You Won’t Be Able To Use Your Moves In a Street Fight

Image: Street Fighter: The Legend of Chun-Li

Reality check: Even if you’ve been training for years, do NOT under any circumstances stay and engage during a street fight. You’ll never find me a YouTube video titled “Girl takes on three burly guys … and wins”, contrary to what my friends think I can do.

If you ever find yourself being attacked, the two best strategies for getting out of it alive are:

(1)   Slash and run. My friends tease me for this, but having travelled alone for a bit, I’m not one to take my chances. If you’re walking home alone late at night, hold your house key between your middle and fourth fingers. If someone attacks you unexpectedly, slash him in the face with the key, then make a run for it. Failing which …

(2)   Kick him in the nuts. And then run.

That's me and my fiance Alain. But we only fight like this when we're in the gym.

That’s me and my fiance Alain. But we only fight like this when we’re in the gym.

About the Author: Denise Li is a founder of Material World and a freelance writer-editor. Before that, she spent a few years in the Features section of CLEO and Cosmopolitan Singapore. She considers Chiang Mai her spiritual home and makes it a point to head there for a yearly pilgrimage. She’s also a fitness buff and enjoys boxing, running and the occasional yoga session. She’s determined to step into the boxing ring one day. Follow her on Twitter @DeniseLiTweets.

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Because I’m Worth It – Deborah Tan

writing-first-blog-paragraphThe thing about leaving a salaried job to start your own business is that people assume you’ve somehow struck gold and therefore don’t need money. My dear readers, allow me to assure you that the truth cannot be further.

I gave up a six-figure annual salary to start a business dealing in something I am passionate about – quality content.

Two weeks into starting Material World a guy got in touch with me via LinkedIn and requested to meet up. When he asked what my “business model” was, I honestly had no answer for him. Not because I do not know what my business model is but because I knew my “business model” would not interest a mercenary businessman like him.

Business people want to trade in something tangible and to them, content is something people don’t pay for (because there are tonnes of people out there who can do it for next to nothing and because you can highlight what you want from some random webpage and copy and paste). Remember the line Miranda Tate (played by actress Marion Cotillard) delivered to Bruce Wayne’s business rival John Daggett?

I could try explaining that a ‘save the world’ project, vain or not, is worth investing in, Mr. Daggett. But you only understand money and the power you think it buys. So why waste my time indeed?”

Similarly, I could try explaining why good content is worth paying for. But IF the businessman was only concerned about money and profits, I’d be wasting my time explaining to him the story behind Material World.

One of the things I personally find offensive is when a potential client asks me why Material World charges what it charges. I think a quick browse around this website will tell you (1) that we aren’t just some freshly minted graduates with hopes to make it as freelance writers and (2) that we have the 3Es: Experience, Ethics, and Editorial Skills.

This short-sighted focus on numbers, on profit margins, on budgets, often leaves us freelancers wondering, “Do people not care for quality anymore?” While it’s often tempting to go, “Well, how much do you want to pay me?”, I am still holding my ground and insisting that my work be paid on my terms. Because … as one of the world’s biggest beauty companies has taught me … I’m worth it.

If you can pay over $7,000 for a Chanel bag, you should understand the value of The Craft True that there is a great number of people who queue outside the boutique to buy a bag because of the Brand but my idealistic self would like to think that beyond the brand is heritage, quality materials, and workmanship. More importantly, the fact that Chanel can charge this much for its bags is because they take pride in the Craft – the process of putting the bag together, one stitch at a time. While you may not be able to wear a story on your shoulder, a well-written one can enrich your mind and widen your horizons. The Craft of Writing therefore is one that should be paid for just as how many of us would pay for The Craft of a Bag.

If you can pay for Cable TV subscription, for a movie ticket, you should understand the value of Creativity
It never ceases to amaze me how while we pay over $100 a month for movie channels, we stop short at paying for the one thing that makes it all possible: Words. Describing a picture, telling a story, planning a book, writing a proposal, selling an idea … all these would not be possible if a person does not possess the POWER OF CREATIVITY. The movie industry has been fighting, for so many years now, against piracy because the existence of pirated DVDs only leads to people thinking they don’t have to pay a just price for viewing that content. If we all – as a people – think it’s okay to pay poorly for content, we will truly come to a point where there will be no creativity at all because … why bother?

If you can pay for an expensive gadget, you should understand YOUR OWN NEED for Content Why pay close to $1,000 for tablets, smartphones, and ultrabooks if you don’t have stuff to put in them? Apps are never totally free – they have ads to support them. Digital magazines are not free because writers and editors have to be paid. Facebook is NOT free, it supports itself on ad revenue too. At the end of the day, CONTENT is not free. Some of us pay outright for it, some of us pay for it in terms of our “eyeballs”, some of us pay for it with our continued use of the platform. Human beings have proven that they have an insatiable appetite for content. It is just jaw-dropping that they think “free”, as a business model, will keep it going.

CONTENT and the process of CREATING IT are not free. Most importantly, there are those of us who believe that we should be paid a fair price for creating GOOD, QUALITY MATERIAL that supports consumerism, grow brand awareness, and help foster a general environment of creativity.

The biggest insult to a freelancer is therefore asking us why we charge what we charge for our work. Just because we don’t have an actual good to sell (like a pair of shoes or a dress), it doesn’t mean we have nothing to sell. Or, be upfront and tell us what you want to pay and we will tell you if we can accept the amount.

About The Author: Deborah Tan is a founder of Material World. After 10 years of working in magazines Cleo and Cosmopolitan Singapore, she is now a freelance writer/editor who works on this website full-time. She likes liquid eyeliners, bright red lipsticks, tattoos, rock & roll, Mad Men, Suits, and believes one day, the world will come round to her idea … Follow her on Twitter @DebTanTweets.

 

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Character & Soul, Guest Writers, Self-Improvement

[Guest Star] How To Be The Master Of Your Destiny – Toh Shau Ching

Shau, Material World's guest writer this week.

Shau, Material World’s guest writer this week.

Shau, a domestic violence survivor, recently gave up being a corporate warrior after more than 25 years, trotting around the globe evangelising the latest technologies in banking financial services, to apply the knowledge and experience she has passionately accumulated over the years in the soft sciences of psychotherapy, psycho-neuroimmunology, nutrition, herbology, alternative medicines, beauty and body therapy – combining them with the hard mechanics of business – to help women live lives freely, independently and powerfully.

Let’s face it. Most of us stumble through life feeling inadequate whilst putting up a brave front to others every day. We can’t seem to shut out this curious yet powerful inner voice that keeps reminding us we do not measure up. We then try to find comfort, indulging in unhealthy behaviour such as overeating and other disempowering addictive activities that we know are bad for us. Despite knowing they are to be avoided we still do them as they give us a false sense of security that, at least, we are in full control of those activities we have chosen for ourselves. We cling on to excuses such as we are not smart enough or too smart, too fat or too thin, too old or too young, too tall or too short, too pretty or too ugly.

Ask yourself this. Do you think Tom Cruise, Oprah Winfrey, Danny Devito, Sylvester Stallone are successful people? A resounding “yes” I am sure. You will be surprised to learn that these celebrities have serious handicaps that would tower over our own; Tom and Sylvester suffer from dyslexia, Danny Devito is height challenged and Oprah went through an impoverished childhood and teen pregnancy. They have all overcome their lives’ setbacks and achieve giant greatness.

Tom Cruise - just one of the many Hollywood celebs who've overcome personal obstacles to achieve great success.

Tom Cruise – just one of the many Hollywood celebs who has overcome personal obstacles to achieve greatness.

So what do they do differently, you may ask? Well, they do not brood over their setbacks and let the sense of hopelessness overwhelm them for one. And they develop a passion that gives them a needle sharp purpose which keeps them busy and focused. It is not that they have no problems in their lives. They just don’t do what others do – try to wish them away. They have mastered the technique of how to resolve issues quickly and stop them from becoming distracting.

We already know this, you say. It is easier said than done.

I agree with you. That’s why we need practical and easy-to-follow how-to instructions to show us the way. I totally subscribe to that too so I promise, in this article and many more to come, I will go beyond theory and attempt to adapt professional methods for daily and DIY use.

Would you like to know how to apply the trade secret method that psychiatrists, psychotherapists and counsellors use to aid others in resolving life issues and, thereby, “unstuck” them?

Step 1.  Accept this simple truth – setbacks in life are NORMAL. Expecting that life is fair and that there should be no problem is actually ABNORMAL. Consider this. You put 2 people with different likes and dislikes, different priorities, different agendas together, should you be surprised that conflicts arise? Add in an ever changing environment such as weather, culture influence, you have all sorts of accidents and coincidences cropping up all the time, some going your way whereas some will go against your wishes. So, it makes no sense to blame luck, others or yourselves for simple acts of nature. You are really being too hard on yourself. Even for those who believe in the mystics, it is a shared concept that life and nature are cyclical, dynamic and ever-changing.

Once you accept this truth, you will begin to feel liberated since you no longer get disappointed frequently by wishing for the impossible.

Step 2. Arm yourself with problem-solving skills. Now you accept that life problems are inevitable, what’s next, you want to know? It naturally follows that you need to learn the powerful techniques to solve the problems as they come rather than let them stew, snowball and steam-roll you, causing you to be “stuck” and unable to do or enjoy other things that life has to offer.

Before we talk about problem solving techniques, first we must feel confident that we have the ability to solve problems. This is what self-esteem is about. Self-esteem is having the belief that you have the ability within you to take charge of your life, to solve problems that present themselves in your life. You do this by constantly recalling situations, no matter how small, that you have been successful in solving. Do not dwell on the unsuccessful ones as they will dis-empower you.

How then is that we are all plagued by this inner voice that keeps telling us we can’t? My own hypothesis is that we are programmed with this cautious voice to help us avoid physical dangers during the cavemen days. Today, we are faced not with  physical danger but mental stress. However, our minds still keep misfiring and fill us with fear even when the issue is a situational one and does not present immediate physical danger.

I will share two powerful professional techniques used to correct this. They are actually very simple. Everyone can master it through practice.

One powerful technique is to mentally tell your brain to think of the word “stop” when negative thoughts run through your mind. By doing so you literally stop your thinking process. Then replace the unproductive thought with a prepared and rehearsed positive, empowering thought.

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The second technique is referred to as “reframing”. This is to generate other positive possibilities or spins that can be behind the issues to combat our first one which tends to be a negative one. Example, the rain is preventing you from jogging. Instead of brooding over it and think life is unfair, you rack your brain to think of what other things you had wanted to do badly but had never got to do. For instance, the rain could give you the excuse to curl up in bed and watch the Korean soap which you had felt guilty doing before. Another example, a friend walks past you at a party ignoring you. You immediately jump to the conclusion that there is something wrong with you. Reframing – you will consider also that he might be shy and that you ought to help him out of his shyness by taking the initiative to approach him. Even if he really chooses to ignore you in the end, you should reframe again by suggesting to yourself the possibility that he is probably struggling with some crises and is distracted. This way, you would avoid deflating yourself unnecessarily, often for no good reasons.

You see, not everything is about ourselves – although we would like to think so. We are not the centre of the universe. Other people do struggle with their own real or imagined problems and often times these spill over and affect how they interact with others.

Both of these techniques need practice. Try catching your thoughts at any random moment during the day. Ask yourself “what am I thinking about now?” and try to think of the word “STOP” followed by replacing it with positive thoughts, which you had earlier prepared. Soon, you find that your mind is like a radio or TV. You can actually control it in the same way. It is fun. With practice they will become easier and easier to apply. Before you know it, they become reflex actions that not only switch off all negative thoughts midstream but they even prevent them from forming in the first place!

Now that you have prepared your state of mind, the problem-solving methods can then began.

I will stop here for now and continue with the next instalment on:

1. The 3 powerful professional methods of problem-solving – Externalising, Internationalising, Goal Setting and Plan For Change.

2. Find your purpose – having a purpose charge your body with energy, power and ultimately happiness.

I am planning to run workshops in the near future on this and many other topics. Please let me know of your interest and love to have your suggestions.

Shau currently runs 2 companies – a word-of-mouth internet and mobile system www.pitch2us.com that helps small businesses get more customers through referrals as well as a unique wholistic slimming licensing service http://www.slimcurves-system.com which helps women achieve healthy bodies and empowered minds, naturally. She trains women on the system to become therapists, helping others and gaining financial independence for themselves. More of her eguides are available here

You can contact her by dropping her an email at shauchingtoh@gmail.com.

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