Love makes us do stupid things? I’m not sure about that. What I can be certain of is that Love makes us very patient people.
I think I’ve mentioned more than a couple of times that I often have very exacting standards for many things in my life. When I moved into my apartment, I had the illusion that it was going to be a clean, sparse, cold, detached, minimally lived-in space that I would use like a hotel room. I imagined myself getting up in the morning, going to work, staying out till the wee hours of the night, only to return home to get the requisite seven hours of sleep.
I guess, by that time, I had already made peace with the fact that I was going to be single for a very long time. My living space would be a chic reflection of the space inside my heart – unpopulated, but nonetheless, well-maintained. The kitchen wasn’t made for cooking – you’ll find neither a gas-stove nor an oven in it. The bathroom featured tiles that “could not get wet” – you had to wipe down its surfaces after every use. The rationale was that if it was going to be just me, I could be “anal” about things.
Then I met Simon and things for the apartment pretty much went downhill from there. From the chic, cool hotel-room vibes it used to have, my apartment now looks like the illegitimate child of a bunker and a gym.
The first time he used the bathroom, I told him pointedly that he had to wipe down the sink counter or the tiles would get stained. He thought I was joking. Three months down the road, he realised I wasn’t when I took him to task for a toothpaste stain that had formed on the counter. To this day, he continues to roll his eyes every time he has to use a towel to wipe away any rogue water droplets after he washes his hands.
Every time he cooks, he would snidely remark, “A gas stove would have been much better …” Whatever.
Before you go, “This guy is amazing to put up with Debs’ crazy habits!”, let me just say that he isn’t without his own set of idiosyncrasies.
1. Someone from Star Trek announces the arrival of a new sms. EVERY TIME.
2. Whereas a can of tuna lasts me for a week, he finishes 2 cans in a sitting. He wiped out my Doomsday stash of canned food 10 days before 21 December 2012. Where’s the support?!?!
3. Whenever I am too busy to go grocery shopping with him, he returns with the entire supermarket.
4. It’s his turn to clean out the refrigerator and he uses the vacuum cleaner to help.
5. It is NEVER his turn to take the trash out.
6. He doesn’t always remember to flush the toilet.
7. He uses my super expensive hair conditioner as a shaving cream.
8. At any one point, he has a collection of 3 cups displayed around the apartment.
9. He insists on fighting me for the duvet every night … and he doesn’t even use it!
10. He likes to remind me whenever Mark Webber finishes after Lewis Hamilton in a race.
And the list goes on.
What is surprising, however, is that, instead of getting frustrated and angry at these habits of his, I’ve come to accept them as what makes him special. Certainly I’m impressed at how he doesn’t seem to care when I threaten severe consequences will befall him if he does not change his ways. But what really amazes me (and makes me love him a little more) is how he manages to make me feel exasperated and amused at the same time.
And this is why I say, in my Love In Line’s column this month, that Love makes us all strangely patient people.
Love In Lines is a special under the Relationship section of Material World. The four founders each takes a week in a month to talk about dealing with love from different perspectives. Founder Deborah Tan talks about the trials and tribulations of living together with a partner. Stay tuned for more!
About The Author: Deborah Tan is a founder of Material World. After 10 years of working in magazines Cleo and Cosmopolitan Singapore, she is now a freelance writer/editor who works on this website full-time. She likes liquid eyeliners, bright red lipsticks, tattoos, rock & roll, Mad Men, Suits, and blames her boyfriend for the ant-problem in her kitchen. Follow her on Twitter @DebTanTweets.
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