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10 Reasons Why It’s Great To Be A Diva – Matthew Fam

I never got the hate with divas. I mean, has a healthy level of confidence ever been bad? (err… no.) Sure, diva behaviour is frowned upon if you throw a hissy fit every five seconds. But there’s so much greatness in being this wonder woman archetype that even you have to give it a try. Here are 10 reasons why: 

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B*tch please, you are confident in your capabilities and talents without resorting to arrogance. And because of this self-confidence, you are decided on your goals. Promotion in 2 years time? Set. Rule the world? Oh yeah, sure, like it’s no big deal. You know exactly what you want, so you go get ’em, baby.

 

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2. You look fabulous 
Haters gonna hate, but you know you’re looking drop dead gorgeous. You keep appearances well, and never let your fab-o-meter go south. Even when you leave home without makeup, you work it like it’s the next big trend, #BareFacedBeauty.

3. You are unfazed by setbacks
Failure doesn’t exist in your dictionary, mm-kay? You don’t have time to entertain it, and your ego is certainly above it. A diva is an optimist: you merely see failure as a work in progress, and a constant refinement until you achieve perfection.

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It is one thing to put aside your own ego to compromise and form a loving relationship with another man. It is another to be completely eclipsed by him. In the diva’s code of conduct, you are not defined by your man- his job, how much he earns or his social status. Instead, you have equal placing on the mantle.

 

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Losing face doesn’t sit well with you. And neither does anyone who thinks that badmouthing is ever a good idea. Sure, confrontation is never desired; but when push comes to shove, a diva doesn’t even need to sharpen her claws. Her caustic wit will be quick to redress anyone who dares sass her out.

Outside of tiffs, this quick wit serves especially well when forming positive impressions and thinking on her feet (Career & Relationships: 1, Enemy: 0).

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6. You will be envied

Fact: you can’t please everyone. Some people will absolutely hate your guts, and that’s okay. But know that deep inside, everyone just admires you for your confidence and, you know, just being so darn amazing. You may even inspire those around you to emulate your fabulosity. So trust in your identity, and be proud to be a diva.

7. You are fearless
Despite the brazen attitude divas are known to have, there will still be times when fear sets in, for example, during a major career decision. However, what makes a true diva is her ability to maintain inner poise and think clearly. Seasoned divas have this down to a tee by breezing through sticky situations, but don’t discount the younger ones- they bite down hard on insecurities and rise to the occasion.

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Maybe a teeensy bit more subtlety…

8. You get straight to the point 
Divas are efficient and will tell it like it is. Forget passive aggression (who has time for that??) you just zero in for the kill. Being straight forward spares everyone the time and trouble trying to figure out what the other party wants. However, do note that being straightforward doesn’t give you the license to be rude. The difference lies in how you craft your message in a respectful manner.

9. You know when to say ‘no’
“I’m not your b*tch, don’t hang your sh*t on me,” once sang Madonna in her 1995 hit, Human Nature. Make this your mantra. Internalise. Apply. You will not be treated like a doormat. Your shining sense of self worth doesn’t allow you to squander precious seconds doing something that is not worth your time. *Three snaps in a ‘Z’ formation*

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10. You will be remembered
When played correctly (read: totes not acceptable to be a full-out monster 24/7), the diva card is your biggest bet to being remembered for the right reasons. In a sea of cookie-cutter personalities, standing out is not a problem for you. Plus, with the magic combination of poise, class and grace, you will be respected by those around.

 

 

So, what other ways is it great to be a diva? Share with us in the comments section below!

About the Author: Matthew Fam is a contributing writer of Material World, and has worked at Cosmopolitan Singapore as an intern and Contributing Beauty Assistant. He writes, teaches, and performs for the stage. Matthew enjoys museum visits, Singaporean Theatre, and spends too much of his undergraduate allowance on magazines.

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