Health & Fitness, Love, Relationships, Wellbeing

In Defence Of Masturbation – Tan Lili


Doing the two-finger tango. Flickin’ the bean. Pushing the hot button. Party of one. Date with BOB. Finding your happy. Oh, you know what we’re talking about … It’s International Masturbation Month and, here at Material World, we’re all about sharing the good stuff.

But, first things first: Why is female masturbation still a taboo topic? It is, after all, a healthy expression of female sexuality. I was 14 when I first came across the subject of self-pleasure – Divinyls’ “I Touch Myself” was mentioned by Buffy in only my all-time favourite TV show Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Obviously, 14-year-old me had no idea what that song was about at the time, though it definitely piqued my curiosity. It was only later, much later, that I discovered the true meaning of solo sex – and, boy, did I wish I had discovered it sooner.

Everyone’s entitled to happiness; no shame in that. And the great thing is, while you’re blissfully lost in your happy land, you’re doing your body and wellbeing a whole lot of good. Here are some of them.

It’s A Natural Pain Reliever
Oxytocin, also known as the love hormone, helps lower your blood pressure and increase your pain tolerance. A US study found that in masturbation-induced orgasms, “the pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increased significantly by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively”. So now you know what to do the next time you feel that migraine coming on …

It’s Good For Your Heart
Studies have shown that women who experience more orgasms – with or without a partner – are better protected against heart diseases.

It Helps You Sleep Better
Post-orgasm, calming hormones oxytocin and endorphins are released, lulling you into a jelly-like state and encouraging a deeper, more restful slumber. Why, masturbation might just be the antidote to your late-night Candy Crush addiction!

It Improves Your Overall Wellbeing
A study found that women who masturbate regularly have higher levels of self-esteem than those who don’t. Sex therapists also stress that masturbation helps relieve emotional stress because you’re allowing yourself to indulge in some me-time in the midst of the drama surrounding you.

It Improves Your Sex Life
Because your pleasure is, quite literally, in your own hands, you’ll gradually learn what feels good for you. And, as your sexual confidence soars with your self-esteem (read point above), you can guide your partner to those sweet spots.

About The Author: A founder of Material World, Tan Lili has previously worked in magazines The Singapore Women’s Weekly and Cosmopolitan Singapore, as well as (now, the online counterpart of Her World). She is now a freelance writer who works on this website full-time. Lili hopes to travel the world, work with wild animals, and discover more awesome Twilight fan-fiction.

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